Thursday, August 25, 2011

THE HARD WALK/WORK

Reading and listening to Celebs
Recently Jada and Will Smith
Got me thinking abt our mindsets
And the models we choose as we forget
Who we really are..................
I am going to talk on something a bit controversial
Love, Committment, Trust, Communication & Connection
I am from this school of thought called weird
 I am just a realist, as a young girl I had my life planned
The perfect man, profession, marriage, bank accounts
But as I grew up I began to realize
The burning secrets our parents had
The pain, confusion and frustration our parents musta had
My generation is packed with hypocrites
Who just hurt themselves in guilt
We are also not as spiritual, we run to man stead of God
I am a party I am not blameless but I tend to see things different
Pple go on with battle of the sexes, blaming who for what
Guys go on about machoism, how they are created to rule
Girls are now bold enough to claim the bitch and live by it
In all these is hidden pain, desire, confusion and judgement
When 2 pple are together, it starts like its forever but
We forget life is in phases, love stands the test of time and fails
Expectations birth pressure and disappointments al the time
2 pple in love forget tests wld come and bail when its show time
I hear girls say Men r to take care of them TRUE but
No one and no law states its a man's role
And thats the problem, our man made laws
A man who feels the need to take care of u
Over a guy who wants to? I Wld rather want
I believe in old fashion love, birth out of care and concern
These days its a status, competition to show and display love
The constant do's and dont's have brain washed our thinking
A woman shldnt cook, stay over at a guy's place
A girl shldnt call, should comb thru his place
A guy shldn't spend, or  go to expensive places
A guy shld just go for the cookie jar c'mon in this century
When wld this immature thinking stop?????
A guy and a girl meet biased with expectations
Emotions truly make u go out of the ordinary but thats why
They are emotions, people take it for granted which is
The anger both sexes carry and nurse LET IT GO
THEN!!!!!
Hypocrites, Trying to control another person's life
No one's situation can be the same as urs
If u r in a relationship and half of the time u r an investigator
You dont need to be in a relationship
As we grow I would expect us to be truthful to ourselves
Ladies, we lie to ourselves a lot always blame the guys yet
We have a part of the blame, especially those who have gud men
Its hard as it is with all the vultures outside
If u like a tall, sophisticated, rich guy (imperfect world)
Dont date a short guy, brash guy and broke out of pity
Leave him for sumone who wld appreciate him
Dont fill ur loneliness at someone else's happiness
Guys if u just want sex, dont lead a girl on
We latch on only because we believe we can make u see
If u see a lady dont demand a slut and later call dem a bitch
U destroy the self esteem of a lady and make her feel worthless
Laugh at ur sleek ways and complain later in life?????
U break her for the one to build her back WORK HARD
We both destroy one another and it shld stop
The word No shld not be hard to say
Learn 2 Understand it must not be MUTUAL
We fail to see the one who adores us looking at the one we adore
TRUTH
Every relationship has its ups and downs
If u choose to be with sumone u av ur reasons
It doesnt mean loose ur identity or a sense of who u are
It doesnt mean get caught up in ur partner and loose urself
Love fizzles out we do not understand the fire burns out
2 pple cant be a 100 all the time its called a compromise
Its not worth it to keep trying and
The reason (person) is not even bothered
Romance is important we get caught up in life
Only to get a wake up call maybe a tad 2 late
U wld always be attracted to someone its life
Everytime u try to talk to sumone doesnt mean u want sex
Friendships are mistaken for certain expectations
Unfortunately these friendships are
Needed as much as u want them
Ur man or woman cant give u EVERYTHING
Beating urself abt talking to sumone else is setting urself up
When u talk into things it only feeds off ur worry!!!!
How do u explain a marriage where its Good morning
Breakfast, kids, work , home, news and goodnight
A relationship where its just obligatory
To call, say I love u, do nice things
Its just how it works, we must revive the fire
It is happening in many homes but pple r just mute!!!!
U must communicate as much as sum dont like 2
U find a nest then u r the bad one girl/guy
Find out what is missing in ur relationship
Men! majority complain of sex getting boring
Do u ever find out what ur woman wants????
Women are pleasers, men are takers only a few r givers
Sex is an important thing in a relationship
So also is communicating and compromise
Men r not as patient to get the ultimate from their partner
For women u av to make love to her mind
Then u av her body!!!!!!!!!!
Her mind is the door to her sexuality, its d power house
Sometimes we want a fast session get with the mind
Its all give or take, U av to get her relaxed first
People have different sexual orientations
Men be patient enough to teach and
Be nice enough to correct ur partner
Dont shut down or make her feel like a failure
Tell what u want but at the same time Listen to us
I say it all the time a Kiss is a powerful tool for women
A kiss, touch drives the message to the mind
But if as a guy you r kissing her to just get ur Johns attended to
Then u miss the point, both of u have to want attention
Imagine the drive of such desires to be satisfied??? Exactly
Its a complex thing and I hope to get into a discussion
With mature, realistic pple on these topics we shy away from!!!
Take out the do's or dont's ur situation is peculiar to u alone
Never make anyone's experience ur yard stick
Let ur emotions go sometimes enjoy it
There is no rule handing d cake to any sexes
We are all created to learn and discover ourseleves
Dont have ur walls up, let go
Dont cheat urself out of life
Love is beautiful, Loving someone is selfless
Sex is wonderful, a mind connection
With the right one is pure bliss
Friendships are sacred, keep an open door
Dont be too stuck up we r all channels
Attractions are normal, dont get too judgemental
Control is God given, running away only draws u closer
Communication is key, rejection is not murder respect it
Feelings dont have to be mutual, understand that
Never judge anyone if u cant feel their heart
Life is unfair, I try to be as fair as possible
Disrespect is not cute, Maturity is hella sexy!!!!

Teju (c) 2011







5 comments:

Myne said...

This posts makes a hella sense! Best lines...

Pple go on with battle of the sexes, blaming who for what
Guys go on about machoism, how they are created to rule
Girls are now bold enough to claim the bitch and live by it
In all these is hidden pain, desire, confusion and judgement


How you doing, dear?

Teejay said...

Thanks Sis following Ur steps ooo!How r u I shall shout at u on Twitter wink!

Unknown said...

... straight, frank and the truth!!

NaijaBloke said...

Akika!!!

DrAjao said...

Keep it up Teju.