THE HARD WALK/WORK

Reading and listening to Celebs

Recently Jada and Will Smith
Got me thinking abt our mindsets
And the models we choose as we forget
Who we really are..................
I am going to talk on something a bit controversial

Love, Committment, Trust, Communication & Connection

I am from this school of thought called weird
 I am just a realist, as a young girl I had my life planned

The perfect man, profession, marriage, bank accounts

But as I grew up I began to realize

The burning secrets our parents had

The pain, confusion and frustration our parents musta had

My generation is packed with hypocrites

Who just hurt themselves in guilt

We are also not as spiritual, we run to man stead of God

I am a party I am not blameless but I tend to see things different

Pple go on with battle of the sexes, blaming who for what

Guys go on about machoism, how they are created to rule

Girls are now bold enough to claim the bitch and live by it

In all these is hidden pain, desire, confusion and judgement

When 2 pple are together, it starts like its forever but

We forget life is in phases, love stands the test of time and fails

Expectations birth pressure and disappointments al the time

2 pple in love forget tests wld come and bail when its show time

I hear girls say Men r to take care of them TRUE but

No one and no law states its a man's role

And thats the problem, our man made laws

A man who feels the need to take care of u

Over a guy who wants to? I Wld rather want

I believe in old fashion love, birth out of care and concern

These days its a status, competition to show and display love

The constant do's and dont's have brain washed our thinking

A woman shldnt cook, stay over at a guy's place

A girl shldnt call, should comb thru his place

A guy shldn't spend, or  go to expensive places

A guy shld just go for the cookie jar c'mon in this century

When wld this immature thinking stop?????

A guy and a girl meet biased with expectations

Emotions truly make u go out of the ordinary but thats why

They are emotions, people take it for granted which is

The anger both sexes carry and nurse LET IT GO

THEN!!!!!

Hypocrites, Trying to control another person's life

No one's situation can be the same as urs

If u r in a relationship and half of the time u r an investigator

You dont need to be in a relationship

As we grow I would expect us to be truthful to ourselves

Ladies, we lie to ourselves a lot always blame the guys yet

We have a part of the blame, especially those who have gud men

Its hard as it is with all the vultures outside

If u like a tall, sophisticated, rich guy (imperfect world)

Dont date a short guy, brash guy and broke out of pity

Leave him for sumone who wld appreciate him

Dont fill ur loneliness at someone else's happiness

Guys if u just want sex, dont lead a girl on

We latch on only because we believe we can make u see

If u see a lady dont demand a slut and later call dem a bitch

U destroy the self esteem of a lady and make her feel worthless

Laugh at ur sleek ways and complain later in life?????

U break her for the one to build her back WORK HARD

We both destroy one another and it shld stop

The word No shld not be hard to say

Learn 2 Understand it must not be MUTUAL

We fail to see the one who adores us looking at the one we adore

TRUTH

Every relationship has its ups and downs

If u choose to be with sumone u av ur reasons

It doesnt mean loose ur identity or a sense of who u are

It doesnt mean get caught up in ur partner and loose urself

Love fizzles out we do not understand the fire burns out

2 pple cant be a 100 all the time its called a compromise

Its not worth it to keep trying and
The reason (person) is not even bothered

Romance is important we get caught up in life

Only to get a wake up call maybe a tad 2 late

U wld always be attracted to someone its life

Everytime u try to talk to sumone doesnt mean u want sex

Friendships are mistaken for certain expectations

Unfortunately these friendships are
Needed as much as u want them

Ur man or woman cant give u EVERYTHING

Beating urself abt talking to sumone else is setting urself up

When u talk into things it only feeds off ur worry!!!!

How do u explain a marriage where its Good morning

Breakfast, kids, work , home, news and goodnight

A relationship where its just obligatory

To call, say I love u, do nice things

Its just how it works, we must revive the fire

It is happening in many homes but pple r just mute!!!!

U must communicate as much as sum dont like 2

U find a nest then u r the bad one girl/guy

Find out what is missing in ur relationship

Men! majority complain of sex getting boring

Do u ever find out what ur woman wants????

Women are pleasers, men are takers only a few r givers

Sex is an important thing in a relationship

So also is communicating and compromise

Men r not as patient to get the ultimate from their partner

For women u av to make love to her mind

Then u av her body!!!!!!!!!!

Her mind is the door to her sexuality, its d power house

Sometimes we want a fast session get with the mind

Its all give or take, U av to get her relaxed first

People have different sexual orientations

Men be patient enough to teach and

Be nice enough to correct ur partner

Dont shut down or make her feel like a failure

Tell what u want but at the same time Listen to us

I say it all the time a Kiss is a powerful tool for women

A kiss, touch drives the message to the mind

But if as a guy you r kissing her to just get ur Johns attended to

Then u miss the point, both of u have to want attention

Imagine the drive of such desires to be satisfied??? Exactly

Its a complex thing and I hope to get into a discussion

With mature, realistic pple on these topics we shy away from!!!

Take out the do's or dont's ur situation is peculiar to u alone

Never make anyone's experience ur yard stick

Let ur emotions go sometimes enjoy it

There is no rule handing d cake to any sexes

We are all created to learn and discover ourseleves

Dont have ur walls up, let go

Dont cheat urself out of life

Love is beautiful, Loving someone is selfless

Sex is wonderful, a mind connection
With the right one is pure bliss

Friendships are sacred, keep an open door
Dont be too stuck up we r all channels

Attractions are normal, dont get too judgemental

Control is God given, running away only draws u closer
Communication is key, rejection is not murder respect it

Feelings dont have to be mutual, understand that

Never judge anyone if u cant feel their heart

Life is unfair, I try to be as fair as possible

Disrespect is not cute, Maturity is hella sexy!!!!

Teju (c) 2011